Let’s talk purity!
I always love the shock in people’s face when they hear we’re waiting until marriage for sex. There was once a time where I couldn’t believe people did that as well and so I can relate to that shocking feeling. My faith journey started only 3 years ago, so I’m no stranger to sex in relationships. Been there, done that and you know what...it never worked out good for me. When I started to learn about how God designed relationships for success I was very intrigued. I thought, “we’ll I’ve tried it the other way and haven’t had any luck so why not try it God’s way.”
So I started my journey of purity in 2018. I became so fascinated on the idea that I read just about every faith based relationship book there was. The more I learned, the more it made sense. Physical intimacy can blind us and trick us into thinking we like someone more than we actually do. We subconsciously start to believe that person owes us more (attention, love, etc) because we have now given such an intimate part of ourselves to them. We let red flags slip and lose sight of our worth.
I was so fearful that I’d never find a man who would wait with me. Or on the other end, I feared I’d never find a God fearing man that would be okay with the fact I’m not a virgin. Those are both lies!! The purity journey is not easy at all! I’ll be the first to tell you that it is a major testament of God’s hand over a relationship, and a testament of major self-control. It’s hard, but honestly with the right man leading you & walking through it with you it’s really not that hard. Let me rephrase, if you’re on a purity journey the man God has for you WILL lead you in that area.
All this to say, when there’s no physical intimacy before marriage you get the honor of connecting on a deeper level...to know their spirit & their heart. You’re forced to communicate and get to know each other so much faster. I’ve learned that this will tell you very quickly if this person is a good match or not. You save time and you save heartache. I hope this message encourages someone because I truly feel like God placed it on my heart to share for a reason this morning